The strap-on harnesses in this guide have received my recommendation based on their safety, quality of construction, comfort, and versatility. They can equip most dildos, comfortably fit most body shapes, and can be used for both pegging and girl-on-girl sex. These harnesses are forgiving toward beginners, but will stand up to anything experienced users throw at them. I’ve enjoyed them for many years and guarantee that you will too.
I also recommend that you read my How to Choose a Beginner Strap-on Harness Guide before making a purchase. Shopping with an informed opinion will help you find the perfect harness that meets all of your needs.
If you are looking for recommendations for a good beginner dildo, then please see my Best Beginner Dildos guide.
If you are looking for a strap-on that comfortably fits a male body, then please see my Best Male Strap-ons guide.
Jaguar Harness
- Made of soft, high-quality leather – Very sleek and sexy
- Jockstrap style provides greater stability to the dildo
- Interchangeable O-ring allows you to equip a wide variety of dildos
- Buckles are easier to use than on most harnesses
- Lifetime guarantee
- Size Large fits up to 56” hips
Why I recommend it: The Jaguar Harness is widely regarded as one of the sleekest and sexiest harnesses on the market. Its soft and shiny leather fits the body perfectly, making it the most comfortable leather product I’ve ever owned. You will look great and feel great while wearing the Jaguar.
While the biggest draw of this product is its sexiness, you will be amazed by how well it functions. The jockstrap style, good buckles, and leg straps that attach directly to the O-ring provide a very secure fit, and allow you great control over the dildo. This will make it easier to thrust hard and fast or perform an unusual sex position. The one downside to this harness is that it comes with only one O-ring, so be sure to add a pack of O-rings to your purchase if you want to equip a variety of dildos.
Overall, the quality construction, lifetime guarantee, and gorgeous aesthetics make the Jaguar Harness both an excellent beginner and “life” strap-on.
Terra Firma Harness
- Best harness to use for equipping dildos with scrotums or unusual shapes
- Extremely secure fit that provides lots of stability to the dildo
- Jockstrap-style with leg and belt straps that attach directly to the O-ring
- Includes a pack of three rubber O-rings
- High-quality leather
- Fits up to 50” hips
Why I recommend it: The Terra Firma Harness is a popular classic that is well-regarded for its very secure fit. The main selling point is that the waist and leg straps connect directly to the O-ring, which allows your harness and dildo to remain secure no matter how wild your movements. This unique strap system and the leather backing also make it the best harness available for equipping dildos with scrotums or unusual shapes. If you intend to have very vigorous and frenetic strap-on sex, then this is the best harness to use.
Read my Terra Firma Harness Review for more pics and extended commentary.
SpareParts Joque Harness
- Includes two built-in pockets designed to hold bullet vibrators above and beneath the dildo.
- Fits up to 65” hips (my top pick in Best Plus-Size Harnesses Guide)
- Extremely comfortable
- Elastic O-ring holds up to 2” diameter dildos
- Machine washable
Why I recommend it: The SpareParts Joque Harness is widely considered to be the most comfortable harness on the market. Between its lightweight fabric material and Velcro belt, this harness will fit you so well that it will feel like a second skin. The fabric is made from layers of soft mesh that wick away moisture so that you can comfortably wear this harness all day underneath your clothes without chafing or sweating. The Velcro belt also has the added benefit of making this harness extremely easy to to slip on and off for some quick, convenient strap-on action. Wearing the Joque is as easy and comfortable as putting on a pair of panties.
In addition to comfort, what makes the Joque so beginner-friendly is that it’s a strong performer. Thanks to the ultra-secure fit provided by the Velcro belt and the elastic O-ring, the Joque provides an excellent amount of dildo stability and control to the point where you’ll feel like the dildo is actually attached to your body. Additionally, the Joque comes equipped with expertly placed vibrator pockets to provide stimulation to its wearer.
Overall, the Joque’s comfort and great design make this one of the best strap-on harnesses ever made.
Bend Over Beginner Kit
- Includes harness made of velvet and nylon, two silicone Silk dildos, O-ring, and a bullet vibrator – everything you need to get started right away
- Harness includes a pocket designed to hold a vibrator over the clitoris
- Excellent bargain for the amount of equipment included in the kit
- Fits up to 50” hips
Why I recommend it: The Bend Over Beginner Kit has everything you need to get started right away, and takes the stress out of figuring out what size dildos and O-rings to buy. The dildos included in this kit are from the Tantus Silk line, which made the top of my Best Beginner Dildos guide and are my personal favorite dildos to use for pegging. The harness itself is good quality nylon and velvet that is quite durable. Use the Bend Over Beginner Kit to get a feel for your harness and dildo preferences before upgrading to pricier options.