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50% Off Tantus General (My #1 Giant Pegging Dildo Recommendation)

The Tantus General is my #1 giant pegging dildo recommendation because it’s the only one in its size range (2″ diameter and up) that is specifically designed for anal use.

Here’s what I wrote about the General in my Top Giant Dildos for Pegging and Strap-on Sex Guide:

Out the large dildo options available, the General is my top giant pegging dildo recommendation. Tantus specifically recommends this dildo for anal play, and you can tell that it was clearly designed for this purpose. The angle of the curve is just right for hitting the prostate and the gentle bumps provide additional stimulation. The silicone material is firm enough so that the dildo remains upright in the harness without flopping or falling under its weight. The head is thinner than the shaft, making the General a bit easier to insert than the rest of the giant dildo options.

While the General may be on the “small” side of my recommendations, its features certainly make it the easiest and most forgiving on the ass. People looking for their first giant anal dildo experience should consider starting with the General first.

UPDATE: The 50% off sale is over, but you can still find the Tantus General for under $100 at SheVibe.

Giant dildos aren’t cheap. It’s rare to find one for under $100, which is why I’m making a special post for this 50% off deal. At $59.95, you’ll get a product that serves your anal needs better than any competitor in its size range, and you’ll save $60 in the process. If you’ve ever wanted to upgrade to a giant dildo, then this is an excellent opportunity to do so.

Cheap Strap-ons Will Ruin Your Sex Life

Buying a strap-on harness is like buying a pair of shoes. Cheap shoes will hurt your feet, give you blisters, and fall apart within months. Quality shoes are comfortable, perform well, and will last a long time. Cheap harnesses do not fit well, chafe, and do not provide the dildo stability you need to maintain a hard, steady thrust. A quality harness will fit your body like a glove, keep your dildo stable no matter how wildly you thrust, and will last you a lifetime.

The quality of your strap-on sex is highly dependent on the quality of your harness. Nothing kills the mood faster than having a dildo fall out repeatedly while thrusting, or having to stop and reposition yourself frequently because your harness keeps slipping. Or worse, you end up not having much strap-on sex at all because the harness is too uncomfortable wear due to chafing or size issues. These are all common problems with cheap harnesses. They are not dependable, stable, or comfortable. This is why I don’t recommend cheaping out on them. Investing in a quality harness is investing in quality sex for both you and your partner.

“But I just want to experiment with strap-on sex. I don’t want to spend much money until I know I like it.”

Here’s how this excuse always plays out. They buy the cheapest harness possible, use it a handful of times before deciding that it’s too shoddy or uncomfortable to keep using regularly, and then end up upgrading to a quality harness anyways. So instead of paying for a good harness in the first place, they’re out $20 for the first cheap harness plus the money spent on the upgrade. I’ve seen this happen in real life so many times. It happened to myself when I was young and inexperienced.

Look, if you’ve reached a point in your sex life where you’re comfortable having a partner penetrate you with a dildo, butt plug, or finger, then you’re very likely ready to upgrade to strap-on sex. So instead of settling for a harness that you know will be flimsy because you’re “just not sure”, make the frugal decision and buy a quality harness that can deliver optimal performance.

Why I Make the Strap-on Harness Recommendations That I Do

When I wrote the Best Beginner Strap-ons Guide, I did so with the intention of directing beginners toward harnesses that are proven and are capable of delivering quality performance. The last thing I want is for a reader to have their first strap-on experience marred by bad equipment. The last thing I want is to turn someone off strap-on sex forever because of a bad product recommendation. These recommendations and desires aren’t always convenient to the bank account, but I stick by them because I strongly believe that quality sex is more important paying the lowest possible price. You and your partner deserve better.

The Life of a Busy Mistress: Giant Dildos, Tumblr, and Strap-on Reviews

I’ve developed a nasty habit over the past month of spending more time updating my Tumblr and writing strap-on guides than I have actually blogging. So as an attempt to break that habit and stop neglecting this corner of my website, I wanted to highlight what I’ve been working on over the past few weeks.

Filling My Life with Giant Dildos

Putting together my Top 5 Giant Dildos for Strap-ons Guide consumed most of my writing time last month. I spent a lot of time shopping, researching, and gaining some hands-on experience to determine the longest and girthiest harness-compatible dildos available. The results were jaw-dropping: The biggest strap-on dildo I found was a whopping 9 inch long, 3 inch diameter monster!

Answering Strap-on Questions on Tumblr

I spent the past month answering reader questions submitted via Tumblr’s anonymous Ask Me Anything feature. Here are some of the highlights:

If you have an anonymous question you’d like to ask me about strap-ons, then feel free to submit it through my Tumblr. You do not need a Tumblr account to ask an anonymous question. You do not need to submit an email address or personal information. You do need to check my Tumblr after submitting your question, as the only way I can deliver the answer to you is to post it publicly. I have no other way of contacting anonymous readers.

Of course, you can’t have a Tumblr without pictures and animated .gifs. I’ve been posting those, too!

On the Docket: Reviewing the Terra Firma Harness

My next project is to write a thorough review of my all-time favorite harness, the Terra Firma. The Terra Firma is so versatile, sexy, and well-made that it’s my top harness recommendation. However, while I continually praise the Terra Firma’s greatness, I’ve never actually given it the in-depth analysis that it deserves. It’s time to rectify that. Stay tuned!

How to Attach a Giant Dildo to a Strap-on Harness

IMPORTANT UPDATE: Since writing this guide, Tantus has released a silicone O-ring set that includes 2.22” and 2.5” diameter O-rings. I strongly recommend using this O-ring set, as these two O-rings will fit most giant dildos and give you vastly more stability than the method described below.

One of the top reader questions I receive is: “How can I strap a giant dildo on to a strap-on harness?” This is a common question because most harnesses can’t equip anything larger than a 2-inch diameter dildo, plus finding a rubber O-ring for that size can be a challenge. Fortunately, there’s a cheap and easy solution available at your nearest Target:

Cheap elastic hair ties can also be used as a functional strap-on harness O-ring. I bought the pack pictured here for about $5 from Target’s hair accessories aisle. Wearing a large dildo is as easy as slipping a hair tie around the toy and attaching it to your harness like you would an O-ring. It’s that simple.

This is the silliest picture I’ve ever taken, but it illustrates how easy and effective a solution hair ties are when you want to strap on a girthy dildo. The can of beans pictured here has a 3-inch diameter, which is a half-inch larger than the girth of the popular giant, Randy. With this set up, you should have no problems equipping a monster cock.

Of course, having a harness big and versatile enough to hold a giant dildo is another problem entirely. Pictured here is the Terra Firma Harness, which is a personal favorite and top recommendation of mine. Thanks to the Terra Firma’s unique strap system and interchangeable O-ring, you can equip dildos of any shape and size. Whether it’s a giant dildo or a dildo with giant balls, the Terra Firma harness will provide a secure and stable fit for it. Highly recommended for strap-on users who are into large and unusually-shaped dildos.

Thoughts Regarding the SpareParts Joque Harness

I received the following lovely reader comment and thought I would share my answer here in case anyone has similar questions regarding the SpareParts Joque Harness and Mustang Dildo.

Hello,

First of all I would like to thank you for this wonderful advisable website. You have done a great job.

I am a begginer (to intermediate) level of pegging. My first strapon kit was [Fetish Fantasy Harness and Vibrating Strap-On Kit] and to be honest in the beggining was quite good. However, since the time passed the harness is not really stable and can not keep the dildo stable.

I would like then to ask you, the Joque Strap-On Harness keeps dildos stable? And does the mustang dildo fit to Joque Harness? What is, in your opinion, the best matching in the sense of stability, control and real skin feeling dildo?

Thank you for the comment! Here are my answers to each of your questions:

1) Yes, the SpareParts Joque Harness will keep your dildo stable. You can see for yourself how stable the dildo remains while thrusting in this official commercial for the product (skip to 0:41 for thrusting action). The video does not contain porn or nudity.

2) Yes, the Mustang dildo fits in the Joque harness. The Joque can accommodate dildos up to two inches in diameter; the Mustang is 1.5 inches in diameter. Speaking from personal experience, the Mustang fits snug and secure inside this harness.

3) I think you’ll be satisfied with the Joque and Mustang combination. They’re both high quality products that will last a long time and provide the stability you’re looking for, so this combination gets my blessing. But if you’re interested in shopping around, here are a few more options:

Dildos: If you’re interested in the Mustang, give the Tex a look. If you’re looking for a dildo that feels like real skin, but doesn’t look like an anatomically-correct dick, then check out the Raquel. The Mustang, Tex, and Raquel are all produced by the same company and use the same VixSkin material.
Harnesses: The Terra Firma is my go-to harness for when I’m trying a new position and absolutely need that extra stability. Honestly, though, all of the harnesses I recommend in my guides perform very well and provide a satisfying amount of stability. I wouldn’t recommend them if they didn’t!